Sunday, March 1, 2015

36 Questions To Ask If You Want To Fall In Love




Not too long ago, I cam across an article from The New York Times claiming that by asking a series of 36 questions and 4 minutes of deep eye contact, two complete strangers could fall in love with each other. 

Could it be that simple? 

According to the article, "The study, formed by Dr. Arthur Aron of Stony Brook University, was originally designed to measure closeness in strangers, but has since then been used to try to form romantic bonds between people."

As you may already know, over the years I have become a seasoned dater. However, nothing really significant or great love has entered my life...YET. After taking myself off the market for several months, I decided to get back on the horse and find myself a new cowboy.

Maybe using a classic love experiment might do the trick and help me better search for my one. So, last night I decided to ask the man I have been dating the last month if he would like to play a question game. Our conversations are always in depth and fascinating, so I figured this would be a great opportunity to get know each other better on a deeper level.

A pattern in creating friendships and romantic couplings required disclosures, reveal personal things and reciprocate. 

He discovered that my most "terrible memory" was discovering my husband's affair. I realized he was so much more than he could have ever described himself on his dating profile. 

Having been on several dates already, we were comfortable to move past small talk and dive in the deep end.

Our midnight experiment challenged our abilities to show our vulnerabilities, gave insight into our personalities, painted pictures of our upbringings and placed a spotlight on our similarities.

Over several glasses of wine, we laughed over funny stories, highlighted each other's qualities, shared secrets and began removing the facades so often found in dating. 

We held hands, shared nervous smiles, bared our souls and spent three hours covering all 36 questions created to foster vulnerability and create a connection. Once we reached the end, we were required to look each other in the eyes for 4 minutes. 

Did you know that when we stare into each others eyes, the bonding "love" hormone pitocin is released?

It's been many years since I've felt a connection this strong and even better that it's reciprocated. Who knows what the stars have in store for me, but thus far I am sensing a strong alignment. Only time will tell.

We didn't know what happened, but the next day something pivotal had occurred and we both knew it.

So, next time you are out on a date, whether you've been together 3 dates or 30 years, why not try out this fun love experiment. Honestly, last night was probably my favorite date ever and I really enjoyed learning more about this new man in my life. Maybe you too will feel the same affect it has had on us both.



Set I

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.


10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?



13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

17. What is your most treasured memory?

18. What is your most terrible memory?

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

20. What does friendship mean to you?

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

Set III

25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ... “

26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... “

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.









Friday, February 13, 2015

Romance Isn't Dead, It's Just Lost

“All I ever wanted was to reach out and touch another human being not just with my hands but with my heart.”

Yesterday, as I was having lunch with my assistant, our conversation turned from professional to the state of affairs in my love life.  

Did you go on any dates?

How did you meet him?

Don't rush. 

Dame. *Japanese for "no", "don't do that" ,"bad" and "no good for you"

I've even showed her how to find love on Tinder, letting her swipe a few Mr. "Rights" for me. 

Michiyo entered my life just I was beginning my divorce process. Over the last six years, she has watched my heart shatter, witnessed me attempting to bandage it with short lived romances, hear about me going on what feels like a million blind dates and finally tucking away my love for safekeeping until someone deserving came along. 

Surprisingly, she feels that it is time that I put myself out there again and find my akai ito (soul mate). Over the past few years, aside from a few fun dates, I have shifted my focus from finding love to loving my singleness. 

Maybe she is right. After all, wouldn't it be nice to share my life journey with someone else. 

Not only do I trust her, but I feel she gives really sound advice. Early on, I rarely listened, but now I understand the wisdom behind her words. After all, she has been married to a wonderful man for a very long time. 
Now that I am ready to get back in the game, I am faced with the same frustrations I left behind 6 months ago. 

With bad dates and romantically challenged men,  I began to wonder if romance was dead. Usually, I have always been the hopeless romantic in relationships. Reciprocity has been few and far between.

Sorry, fellas, but sending unsolicited photos of your erect penis isn't romantic. Sexting doesn't substitute for love letters as well. 

What happened to good ole fashion romance?

Maybe it isn't dead, but just got lost along the way.  

How do we get back to feeling butterflies and epic love stories? Was there a way we could help the romantically challenged find their way to love? Not all are born Casanovas or Romeos, but perhaps there is great potential, if given the right tools and a map to a woman's heart. 

With Valentine's Day quickly approaching, I began to wonder what advice I could give to the romantically challenged man, in order for him to sweep a woman off her feet.

I was recently introduced to Man Crates and their date crate project and it gave me an idea about how to help those who are romantically challenged with planning a great date.

Just a little background, Man Crates is a fun, new company geared towards providing individualized gifts for men, but packaged all together in one huge crate, along with a manly crow bard to open and reveal all the epic goodies. 


I absolutely LOVE this concept. In the past, I have created special care deployment packages for the men in my life, because who doesn't love opening a box of gifts just for you. 

Now Man Crates does all the hard work for you, by providing themed crates for the special man in your life. 

Whether he is avid golfer, retro gamer, zombie hunter or cigar aficionado, you have so many options to choose from. 

Now here was the fun part, I was asked if I were to put 5 items into a Man Crate, to help a prepare a romantically challenged fella for a date, what would I put in it?

Immediately, I began to reflect on all the dates I had been on the past few years and which ones were the most memorable and romantic. None included roses, chocolates or typical crowded dinner reservations. 

While it would be difficult for me to  tell you specifically what I would put in a crate for a date for another woman, I could give you a little advice on what to consider when you are planning for your romantic rendezvous. 

A recipe for a wonderful date requires only a few ingredients: fun, romantic, personalized and thoughtful. 

Anyone can send a dozen roses on Valentines Day, but  if you want to sweep her off her feet, then you are going to need to be creative and think outside the "crate".

Each crate should contain 4 tangible items that reflect each ingredient and my 5th item would simply be a card that said, "Smile. Be yourself. Have fun. Pick up the tab."
 
For example, if you know your date loves wine, instead of giving her a bottle a wine, why not include a coupon for a local wine tasting evening experience. Not only will she love it, but see how thoughtful you were in your planning.

Looking back, one of my most memorable dates, didn't even cost a lot of  money, but so much fun. A man I had dated, surprised me with a sunset picnic on the North Shore. Wine, cheese and him "cracking" me up.

Unbeknownst to me, he had hidden speakers underneath the blankets and began belting out my favorite Paula Abdul song on one of our first dates. In that moment, I knew he was going to be a fun man to date.

As far as a personalized item, this is where it is important for you fellas to really listen to your woman. Whether you have just begun talking over the phone or have been loving her for a decade, here is an opportunity to show that you are really paying attention.

One of the romantic Valentines Day gifts I had ever received was from a man who surprised me with an iPod shuffle, filled with all my favorite songs and photographs of us together. It was the modern day mixed tape. In addition, he also included a reflective running belt for my first upcoming race.

By knowing what I loved, he paved the path for us falling in love.

It isn't too late to revive the romance back into your life and relationships. So, skip the conventional commercial Valentines Day go to gifts and set yourself apart from the other men.

Wishing you all the love you deserve. Happy Valentines Day!

Love,

Sweet Cicily



























 

Tuesday, February 10, 2015

How Do You Find Time To Workout?


Aloha, my beautiful and wonderful friends! I hope everyone is having a great start to their week. 

Last night, I received a message on my Facebook from a friend I had made a few years ago, asking for details on the special needs prom I volunteer for every year.

After passing on the information, she said something that really made my day.

It's always the unexpected comments that are the most satisfying. 

"You're transformation is amazing! You're body is rocking and you look so youthful. How do you do it? You're so inspiring! And, you're a mom too!"

She met me pre-CrossFit, post break up weight gain. I was at my heaviest in years. I never exercised, I ate junk food and I wasn't in a good place.

Honestly, I was so shocked to hear this beautiful real life beauty queen even say this!

Seriously,  I don't really see myself this way. Infact, I can be hard on myself. Aren't so many of us guilty of this? My body is far from rocking, but I will take the compliment!

Anyhow, it made me happy because someone else had noticed all the hardwork I had been putting into being a healthier me.

She isn't the only one. I've run into old flames, friends or former coworkers and they are shocked of how much I change.

Now THIS pumps me up to work really hard this year.

Granted, will never be Miss CrossFit, with the rippling abs or muscle ups, but I will be the best version of me.

Next month I turn 38! You better believe I am going to stride into my 40s as a hot mom, thanks to CrossFit. Haha.

For the last two months, I have doubled, almost tripled the amount of times I worked out at CrossFit. This is an all time record for me as far as fitness is concerned. 

Plus, I am really working on my nutrition. Which reminds me that I need to prepare my lunch for tomorrow. Honestly, I am learning that is the critical component. Abs are really cooked in the kitchen!

Not only have I been noticing gains in my strength, but I have developed a habit of making working out a part of my daily schedule. 

I'd like to challenge you to work out for 30 days and see what healthy habits you stick to.

Back to my friend's question, "How do you have time to work out?"

It's simple. I MAKE TIME!

If you know me, I don't have a typical custody schedule, as it reflects my ex husband's travel for his business. There were times I used that as an excuse. "Well, I can't because I have my son with me." So, I wouldn't work out for weeks.

Thankfully, my head coach at CrossFit is so supportive of families. He is a single dad himself and GETS how hard it can be juggling family and fitness. He encouraged me to bring my little boy and introduced me to other parents bringing their kids.

I love that my box has so many families that bring their kids with them!  We truly are one big family at CrossFit in Kailua.

So, no matter what, unless we are sick, we have scheduled CrossFit into our week. Sometimes it is more challenging when you have to take your kid to after school sports. However, we make it work.

Just the other day, I passed a framed photograph of the night I graduated my Elements CrossFit class. I couldn't help but smile. Out of the 20 faces, I was 1 of about 3 left in my class still at my box two years later.

SERIOUSLY,  ME, the girl who failed PE, hated sports, always finished the WOD last, couldn't even squat and almost died doing burpees. 

 I am still here. 

I am not going anywhere, because I have discoverd a home away from home and a family of loving and supportive friends.

That is another thing,  now that I am going more, I am really getting to know people. Strangers turn into friends. I use to be really shy every time I walked into the box. 


 In the past, I just did my WOD, left and didn't really know anyone on a deeper level. Now I see so many of their wonderful faces and whether they will ever realize it or not, spending time together is often the highlight of my day.

CrossFit has changed my life in so many wonderful ways, but it's the people and comradery that define it's greatness. 

Who wouldn't want to make time out for something that brings you such happiness?

Have a great week and I hope you enjoyed my cheesy, sappy CrossFit moment.

Love,

Sweet Cicily

Here are just a few photos from my Cicily Goes To CrossFit adventures.













Tuesday, February 3, 2015

Are Bad Boys Worth Dating?


He was the equivalent to a box of thin mints. Delicious, momentarily satisfying, bad for me and I knew I would regret my indulgence later on. 

What is it about bad boys that make me want to "cheat" and give in?

 After years of dating emotionally unavailable, flaky and douchey dudes, I made a vow I would cleanse my system of my bad boy habit. So for the past 6 months, I promised that I wouldn't go back to my old ways and make better decisions with the men in my life.

I can spot trouble  a mile away. Usually, he is disguised as the "nice" guy, but with an edge. Never available, always running from commitment and oozing sexuality. 

From the moment I saw him, I have known he was trouble, but I was still intrigued.  Our sexual tension tug of war over the years led to the unleashing of passions upon passions. 

He was honest that he doesn't believe in monogamy and preferred a lifetime of flings over a long term commitment. 

I will have to say, he was upfront and didn't feed me any lines he thought I wanted to hear. 

Not that I don't see value in what he has to say. After having experienced the betrayal of infidelity, my world is seen through different eyes. Once a hopeless romantic, I now lean towards realistic. 

Does that mean I want to spend my life running away from commitment and avoiding true intimacy? 

I too struggle with whether or not monogamy is realistic.

Oftentimes I wonder, will the eternal bachelors one day wake up alone, when there is no one left to right swipe, realizing that dying alone is a risk you take?

As one man I had once dated said, "Casual sex will not make you chicken soup when you are sick."

Here's the thing. Casual sex is the ultimate oxymoron. How could the sharing of two bodies and two souls be taken lightly?

Yet, we continue to tell ourselves these lies. I am no exception to this statement. We make excuses to justify our actions.

Two years of my heart desiring the idea of him; it only took just a few short hours to realize I didn't really like the real him. 

Not that he is a bad person, but he isn't a good guy when it comes to women, which his actions speak loud and clear. 

I stuck my hand in the cookie jar, but realized all he had to offer were crumbs.

Maybe he was right, perhaps he was turning into a guy that was not so "nice" after all.  Which in itself makes me feel sad for him, because somewhere along the road he closed off his heart. 

Although, he is funny, sexy and smart, it isn't enough for me. 

Who am I kidding? I want more than just lust. I want a love that is sprinkled with lots of lust. I want it all. 

Afterwards, I realized that I should have never taken that box of cookies off the shelf.

Last year, a friend of mine, who is an acting agency talent scout, described an audition with one of the male actors. 

"Read that again, but with a likeable douchiness," he said.

"Likeable douchiness" is the perfect example of the men I have been attracted to over the years. I know this sounds terrible, but we can't help what melts our butter. 

Somewhere in my wiring, these blend of polar opposite qualities,  drives me crazy. I cannot explain it. Just like country fried steak smothered in gravy drives me crazy, but I know that sh$t is bad for my heart. So are BAD boys.

A smidge of charming, a dash of aloof and unwavering confidence is sexy as hell to me. It shouldn't be though. I know better than this. Instead, I should seek thoughtfulness, intelligence and generosity with his heart.

Bad boys aren't interested in investing in you, but chasing flings, lining up ass and only looking out for themselves. 

I knew they weren't good for me, but why did I find myself sometimes slipping? Was it their charm or their confidence?

You may be tempted, but remember to keep focused on your healthy love goals. If you slip and make a mistake, don't be so hard yourself. We all have our cheat moments. It isn't the end of the world.

Erasing unhealthy dating habits is much like how we  erase bad eating habits. Despite having full intentions to quit cold turkey, giving up bad boys was going to be much harder than I thought. 
 
Like a box of my favorite Girl Scout cookies,  he had nothing really to offer but empty calories. He knew it. I knew it. Eventually, I would grow tired of just eating cookies and want something more to satisfy my appetite for genuine love. 


Love, 

Sweet Cicily






You've Come A Long Way, Baby

 
"You've come a long way, baby!"


At the end of the work day, I sat down with my wonderful assistant, catching up on our weekends. Discussing our families, dinner plans and many heart to heart conversations. We have become really close over the last six years.

Michiyo entered my life, just as I was exiting my marriage. 



A few years ago, she had told me about the Japanese term akai ito, meaning the red string of fate, tying two souls together.

Without a doubt, Michiyo is one of my life's akai itos, she is my soul mate. Our paths crossed long before we ever met in my classroom. 

Almost 38 years ago, when I was born in Manila, Michiyo was also at the same exact hospital, visiting her sister who was giving birth to her niece. At times I wonder, if we crossed paths while we were living in the same city. 

Anyways, during our heart to heart today, Michiyo told me that she was so very proud of me. She has seen it all, heard it all and watched me evolve into the woman that I am today. 

When I first was going through my divorce, I was a hot mess, chasing emotionally unavailable guys, frantically wanting to find love and focusing on all the wrong things.

Although, she was always there to provide support and encouragement, she knew I had to learn from my own mistakes. 

I admitted I was once really naive, insecure and  made a ton of mistakes. Now, I can look back in hindsight, sometimes cringing, other times laughing, thankful for what the last six years has taught me about myself.

"Look at who you are now. You have really grown up. You are finally your own person. You are confident. You are strong."

Six years ago, I was the polar opposite of strong, I was completely broken. 

These days, I don't let silly men who don't value my time or worth, phase me one bit. I move on and continue living the wonderful life that I have built. I understand that there are plenty more fishes in the sea, who will know that I am a great catch.

I didn't need to go on a thousand dates to search for the ONE, I had already found the ONE in myself. 

No longer did I validate my self worth from others, but my self worth was a built up from the life I built on my own self. Whether it was putting myself through graduate school, becoming a writer, traveling around the world, CrossFitting, being the best mom I could be to my son, cultivating the relationships in my life or just doing my best to make the most of each moment. 

Do I still f$ck up every once in awhile? Do I have a lapse in judgement? Do I sometimes repeat hard lessons? Of course I do. After all, I am only human. However, I have come a long way baby from years past. 

Now I just pick myself up, dust myself off, smile, being kind and patient with the process and keep moving on. 

Life taught me that sometimes you need to be knocked down, in order to test whether or not you have it inside of you to get back up. 



Love,

Sweet Cicily












Thursday, January 22, 2015

Why Don't You Love Daddy?



It's hard to believe that it has been six years now since I have been divorced.

For the most part, I left that painful part of my life in the past. Yet, when I least expect it, I am reminded of the stark realities of being a divorcee.

While I was tucking my little boy into bed tonight, he asked me point blank, "Why don't you love daddy anymore?" 

My son wasn't even 2 years old when I filed for divorce.  What could he possibly remember at such an early age? 

Maybe I underestimated the impact it would have on our son. 

Honestly,  he had never really seen his parents together, thanks to multiple military TDY trips and a few unaccompanied tours overseas.

We have lots of heart to heart conversations. As a mother, I want him to feel secure with expressing his thoughts and feelings.

Never do I want him to feel dismissed, so I always encourage him to speak up.

It doesn't matter what age, kids still have feelings and need to feel valued. 

"Why can't we ALL live together?" Meaning mommy, daddy, step mom and his new baby brother. "I miss when we were all together."

"What do you remember?" 

Despite being just a baby, he recalled in detail moments of our last few months as an intact family.

My heart sank. 

I was stunned. How is that even possible?

I knew one this would come. I wasn't sure how I would explain it.
Never would I tell him the real details of why his dad left and why I felt no other choice to leave.

Kids don't need to know that. 

I was hoping we would skip over all that. Figuring, he didn't know us together, so maybe it won't be so painful or difficult. 

Wasn't my explanation of two homes where so many people love you enough? 

He was honest,  sharing that going between two houses was getting old. As for myself, I know that would be frustrating, so it is understandable he feels this frustration.

I don't know what that is like because I never had to experience divorce as a child. Although, our homes are just minutes apart, to our little boy it felt worlds away.

As much as I wish my son never had to come from a home that was broken, I know that my decision was best for our entire family. It doesn't mean that I don't still worry if this will affect him in the long term. 

How will he view marriage? How will this affect his future relationships?

Children are far better off seeing parents that are happy than unhappy in a marriage. 

I sympathized with my son and reassured him that he was loved by mommy and daddy so much.

No matter how many years have passed, divorce still can affect your present. Your perspective will determine how you move forward.

I'd like to think my divorce had a happy ending. 

Despite our history, my ex and I maintain a very healthy and positive relationship. Not everyone can say this about their ex spouses.

We may have been terrible at marriage, but we are rocking the hell out of our coparenting post divorce relationship now.

Just this past weekend we all sat together for breakfast. Sitting next to his new wife, holding his baby and feeling thankful God is watching over all of us.

Do I love my ex like I did when I was 15? Of course not. That was puppy love. We were just kids.

Divorce taught me what love is really all about, including letting people go, forgiveness and being genuinely happy when they move on.

My son was wrong. I do still love his dad, but not how he understands love at his tender age.

My ex will always be my son's father and I will always love him for bringing my son into my life. I also love the woman whom he married, who has shown love to both me and my son.

Maybe we aren't the family I had dreamed of having 13 years ago, but I am still happy how it turned out.

Did you come from a divorced family

Love,
Sweet Cicily













Monday, January 19, 2015

CrossFit Is Expensive ...

“We are made to persist.
that's how we find out who we are.”
― Tobias Wolff

It has been months since I wrote a CrossFit Confessions, so what better a time than on my day off from work. 

I haven't been writing as consistently as I once did or would like to be. Once winter break was over, I have been slammed at school, juggling mounds of paperwork, teaching and top it all with the responsibilities of life as a single parent. 

My days consist of waking up, driving my son to school, drive to work, madness of teaching special education, meetings, make a mad dash back home to pick up my son in time for soccer practice, cook dinner, do homework, go to bed and start all over the next day. 

Somehow, in the middle of all this controlled chaos, I have managed to go to CrossFit at least four times a week. 

 

    

Back in December I made the decision to go all in and opted for the unlimited membership package at my CrossFit box. 

If I was going to do this, I was going to DO THIS like a boss.
 
THIS has been my saving grace. 

So let's start with today's confession 3...2...1.. GO!

CrossFit Is Expensive, BUT Worth Every Penny.

When I first heard of CrossFit, I thought the person was out of their dang mind when they told me just how much it cost. 

Couldn't I just go to a regular gym at half the costs? Well, I did go, got bored on the treadmill and found myself NEVER going back. It was a complete waste of money.

When I pay a lot of money for something, I feel obligated to get every penny's worth out of it. Plus, I work really well with peer pressure and encouragement. If I am working out in a group, I just cannot give up. 

For example, I felt like I was going to die in the 3 800 m runs during the WOD. Thank God I had a partner who was patient, but pushed me hard to keep going and finish off hard. 

You ain't gonna get that if you are working out alone, unless you are incredibly disciplined and determined. 

I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE how everyone in my box cheers each other on. 

I use to think CrossFit was just hard for me because I am not all that athletic. Turns out, it is hard for everyone, because we are each focused on our own goals.

At least with CrossFit, I never, ever get bored because the workouts are constantly varied, it is a fun social setting and I feel I am getting my money's worth because I have a personal trainer at my disposable. 

CrossFit also doubles as the cheapest and most effective therapy ever. Whenever I have had a really hard day, I am able to melt all my stress away during a 12 minute WOD of throwing around weights, jumping on boxes or running. 



To top this all off, CrossFit has widened my social circle and has given me the opportunity to meet some really great people. No matter where you are in the island, if you are a CrossFitter you have an instant friend. 



Honestly, CrossFit is very expensive and I understand the price is a  major deterrent and obstacle for many people. I TOTALLY get it. Trust me, I have been there and understand sometimes it just doesn't fit your budget. 

After my car completely broke down, depleting my savings and taking on a car note, I had to take 6 months off from CrossFit, in order to get back on my financial feet again. 

Once I returned to CrossFit, then I got really sick and faced costly hospital bills. Dang. Was I ever going to go back to the box again?

However, while I was in the hospital, I was determined to make my health my priority and find a way to get back to the place I loved the most. It was going to take sacrifice, creative budgeting and hustling to make my way back. 

After getting out of the hospital, I decided to take a few babysitting jobs to cover the costs of my box membership. While some people were out partying on the weekends, I was offering to babysit for family friends, CrossFit members and placing my services on a local childcare website. 

Just in December, I was able to cover the costs of two months of unlimited CrossFit membership. If you really want something, you have to learn the art of the hustle. 

So many people make excuses that they cannot afford to eat healthy or have no time to workout.I am going to call bullshit on most cases. Again, there are the exceptions, but I want you to take a real close look at where you spend your money and priorities.

If I can do it, I know you can do it too.

Listen, if you can go out to dinner 3 times a week, 4 times a month, you are spending far more than a gym membership. Cooking my meals at home saves me a fortune, plus I know what I am putting in my body. Take a look at your online bank statement and start calculating just how much you are really spending going out to eat.

You know that cable bill is just as costly and what is it really doing for you when you are sitting on the couch? I cancelled my cable bill and subscribed to Netflix 6 years ago. That alone saved me $1,200 a year. That alone can pay one year's unlimited membership to CrossFit. 

Even if it isn't CrossFit, you can hire a personal trainer or pay for your whole family's membership at a regular gym.

I was curious just how much of my income and time I actually invested in myself. Turns out it doesn't really require all that much. 

According to my calculations, my CrossFit membership is only 4% of my income and only 2% of my time devoted to working out during the week. In the grand scheme of things, it really isn't too much to set aside for yourself. 

Just how much of your time and money are you investing in your health? What could you give up to afford a healthier lifestyle?

Love,

Sweet Cicily